Grow Your Business with LinkedIn

LinkedIn is one of best platforms to be on to grow your business, build your community, and collaborate with other like-minded people like you!

Watch Kellie and I on the replay talking about how we connected on LinkedIn and how we’ve grown our coaching and consulting businesses because of it.

Got a question about using LinkedIn? Post it in the comments below!

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4 Mindfulness Practices That Can Change Your Life

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I’m sharing with you the mindfulness practices that have changed my life and I now teach to my coaching clients. At the peak of my makeup artistry business success I felt like I was on a fast moving train that I didn't know how to slow down or get off of. It was an exciting time and so much fun but there was also the constant feeling of being frazzled, like I was running a million miles a minute. I spent every second of my day worried that if I took any time away from my business that it would completely fall apart. I was always connected to my phone or my computer, I remember my kids asking for me to play and I never would, mommy was always working.

At the time I was heading straight to burnout and I didn’t know it. I eventually had to learn boundaries, to say “No” to things that weren’t in alignment with me or my vision, I stopped giving my power away and looking to others for validation. These mindfulness practices helped me to change my life and that is my hope for you!

1. Set Your Intentions

Each morning when I wake up I set my intention for how I want to feel, for me it is always “calm, connected, and fun”. You can find lists of core desired feelings on Pinterest and online, pick 10-20 that feel good to you and then start to narrow them down to 3 that really resonate with you. I check in with myself throughout the day, “Am I feeling calm, connected, and fun?” It is also helpful to set a new intention each time you are moving from one thing to the next, check in with yourself and make sure you are in alignment with how you want to feel.

2. Meditation

Give yourself a break, you’re not suppose to know how to meditate if you’ve never done it before! If you were riding a bike for the first time in your life you wouldn’t expect to get on and ride after your first try but after some practice you would be well on your way. Be easy on yourself this takes practice and if you make yourself feel bad about not getting it right you are missing the point.

If you have some resistance to meditating or don’t think you can do it, just think of it as quiet time, this is the time you can tap into your intuition and your inner guidance system. At first you may want to try a guided meditation, you can check out the Hay House Meditation podcast or find one of YouTube, eventually you will not need to be guided you will be able to enter a meditative state on your own.

3. Journaling

Journaling is my therapy! It’s not like in high school where you wrote “Dear Diary” and talked about your day, this is a way for your to get your thoughts and fears onto paper and out of your head. It’s a way to process your emotions privately and without getting others involved in your trauma and your drama.

Also, take some time each morning to use your journal to write things down that you’re grateful for, things you love about your life, write your goals and dreams for your future. This will help you stay high vibe and excited for things to come while feeling gratitude for the abundance that you have now.

4. Being Present

Motivational speaker Rachel Hollis recently said, “Be present where your feet are.” That spoke to me because how often do we have a million things running through our minds, we are either thinking about something in the past and regretting it or we are anxious about something in the future, we never seem to be fully present in our bodies.

A few times a day I make myself stop whatever I am doing, close my eyes and take 3 deep breaths in through my nose and out through my mouth. I want to actually feel myself in my body, to be present. It’s also important that we give our loved ones our full attention when we are with them, make a habit of putting your phone and computer away and be fully present with them. It’s the quality of time you give them, not the quantity.

If you plan to include some or all of these mindfulness practices in your life, let me know in the comments below! As always I offer a free introductory coaching session, if you think life + business coaching may be right for you go to my Contact page and let’s set up a time to chat!



How to Become a Thought Leader

How to Become a Thought Leader

So you want to be a thought leader… This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart because I see so many women afraid to go all in, they are afraid of being truly seen and of being judged.

Now more than ever we need women to step up, to share their vision and their voice, to reach back and give a hand to the women who don’t yet see their purpose and their power. Thought leadership is about your legacy and the impact you’re making on this world.

What is a thought leader? 

Wikipedia’s definition is “ a thought leader as an individual that is recognized as an authority in a specialized field and whose expertise is sought and often rewarded.”

Cambridge Dictionary defines a thought leader as “an expert on a particular subject whose ideas and opinions influence other people.”

Who can become a thought leader and why is it important?

Every single person on this planet has a unique perspective, gifts, talents and experiences that have helped shape them and by sharing they can help others. This is our purpose in this world, this is the work that we’re meant to be doing, this is what lights us up and gives our lives meaning.

I believe a thought leader is someone who helps people see and think differently. Their livelihood is about sharing their story, their message and helping others. They make their income through writing, speaking, coaching, and consulting.

How does someone become a thought leader? 

By sharing their unique vision, their successes and failures, by sharing their framework and methods that have helped them. You don’t have to go find your purpose and your voice, you already have them, you just have to tap into them. Use your intuition to guide you and begin to feel confident enough to step into the person that you’re meant to be.

I believe our purpose propels us forward when things are hard or are taking longer than we want them to. Once we are so deeply connected to our purpose we can start to share our voice through blogging, videos, podcasts, etc....there’s so many ways to create content now. Pick the one that feel most aligned with you, something you can see yourself doing for a long time.

Do what feels right for you. For me podcasting feels lonely, I don’t really have a place to do it and my closet felt kind of sad so it’s not where I spend my time right now. I love video, ever since the app Periscope (released in 2015, pre-Facebook live) came out with live video I have loved making videos and even named my website “Kim Porter TV” because of it. I get excited about all the ways I can incorporate video into my content creation. Find what feels good to you and stick with it!

You do not need a million followers to make an impact.
— Kim Porter



Being a thought leader means putting your thoughts out there for the world to see and hear. It’s scary at first to step into your personal power, to own your story and share it but that’s where all the good stuff is. If you’re feeling resistance just start small.

I started sharing quotes and articles on my personal Facebook page that resonated with me, then I started to create my own. One day when I felt brave enough I shared my truth about my depression, anxiety, feeling out of alignment and unfulfilled in my life and everything changed for me. Being vulnerable is also being brave and it’s how you step into the woman you’re meant to be.


With the internet we can reach people all over the world which is amazing but can also be overwhelming. It’s scary enough to share our story with our friends and family but now we have to share them with the world too? You have to get over yourself, you’re just afraid of being judged and when you step into thought leadership you have to put your fear on the back burner.

When we’re helping change the world we have no time to let fear stop us, we’ve got bigger things to do! It’s so important to use the internet to get our message out but I also believe it’s important to start with our own communities, start with where you live and then build out from there locally, to national, and then international.


Do you have a unique perspective that can help others to see things in a new or different way? Have you been through something that you can now show others how to get through it with more confidence or spending less money and time? The difference between someone who is a thought leader and someone who isn’t is the method or framework that you create that can help others.

Without a way to help others you’re just sharing your story but not really making the impact that you could be making. Think about how you got through your tough times, what made the difference for you? What would you love others to know?


Are you a writer, author, speaker, podcast host, video creator, etc.? Be clear about who you are, what you do and what your message is.

Make it easy for people to work with you. Do you have a book, a membership, a course, or do you offer 1:1 coaching or consulting? Don’t make people search for a way to work with you, if you resonate with them, make it easy for them to pay you for your gifts and talents.

It’s so important for us to help raise the consciousness of the entire planet and that starts with you. By stepping into your personal power and highest self you are changing the world!

Are you ready to step into your role as a thought leader? I would love to hear from you, comment below or go to my Contact page to send me a message.



P.S. I am available for 1:1 coaching and consulting, go to Work with Me to find out more.

The Midlife Meltdown

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I’m changing the name from midlife crisis to midlife meltdown because you don’t want a freaking sports car, you want peace. You fear that time is running out, is it too late to go after your dreams? You worry that you should have this whole life thing figured out by now, you look around and it seems like everyone else does… newsflash they are just showing you their highlight reel on social media.

You feel out of control and your emotions are all over the place (hence the name “meltdown” it’s like my toddler, do I want a cookie? A nap? A hug? I don’t know!). If you’re a woman over 35 years old you may be going through perimenopause, the time in a woman’s life before menopause when our periods and hormones are erratic, it can make us feel like we’re going crazy. If we go to the doctor and spill our guts they tell us we’re depressed and to just take this pill and everything will be fine, but it’s our job to take our power back.

How can you feel like yourself again?

Focus on how you want to feel

Start your morning with your intentions for how you want to feel. Mine are “calm, connected and fun” if you google “core desired feelings” you will find lists of words and author, Danielle LaPorte, has a book called “The Desire Map” that goes deeper into this. The idea is to stay connected and aligned with our true selves through out the day, we want to be the calm within the storm, not the actual storm. Pick 3 words that resonate most with you and say them to yourself as you go through your day.

Reduce Stress

Yeah, yeah I know it’s impossible but at least start having boundaries. Say no to things that don’t feel good and ask for help. If you have a hard time setting boundaries you have to ask yourself why, there may be something from your past if you can’t say no or you feel bad when you speak up.

Create a morning routine

I love waking up before my household does, I journal, read and meditate to help me feel centered. Start a morning routine that makes you feel good and makes you want to jump out of bed. It doesn’t have to be long just some time for yourself so you don’t feel rushed and starting your morning off feeling out of alignment.

Find support and ask for help

If your hormones are all over the place speak to your doctor, you may need to look into hormone replacement. Find a group of women in your area or online that can support you, hire a counselor or life coach that can help you focus on what’s important.

Do things that make you happy

Write a list of 20 things that you love to do that makes you so happy. For instance your morning coffee, buying yourself flowers, listening to music or reading a good book. Try to incorporate as many of these as you can in your day to help you feel high vibe.

Release old goals that are no longer aligned with you

I see this a lot in my coaching practice, women who have old goals that make them feel stuck between their old and their new life that is calling to them. If you’ve had a goal for years but it no longer feels aligned with you, let it go, all you’re doing is holding yourself back and keeping yourself stuck. Embrace the new you that you’re becoming!

The most important thing to remember is that you’re not alone, so many women feel like they are going crazy. This is new territory for us, we have everything we’ve ever wanted, the relationship/marriage, kids, and work but we can also feel like we’re drowning because we are literally trying to do it all. We have the power to take back our lives and to feel the way we want to feel, it’s important and we need to do it!

Does your soul feel bankrupt? I wrote about this earlier this year, check out this blog post: What to do if your soul feels bankrupt

If this sounds like you and you would like help, I offer an introductory coaching call to help you get more clarity and to see if we’re a good fit, go to my Contact page to send me a message.



How to Stay Motivated

Have you been feeling unmotivated?

Did you start something and then lost your motivation?

Are you sure your goals are even aligned with who you truly are?

I’m sharing my methods for staying motivated and how to get your motivation back!



How to Step into Your Personal Power

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Are you ready to regain control over your life?

Are you tired of reacting to every little thing so that you feel exhausted and overwhelmed all the time?

Are you ready to know that being YOU is your superpower and that you can create everything that you desire?

What is personal power? There are many different definitions on the internet but my definition is the power you feel when you can handle anything in your life. It’s an unwavering belief that you can have, be and do anything that you desire. I believe personal power is the key for all the happiness, joy, abundance and success. I believe that it’s the key to creating everything that you want in your life.

How to Step into Your Personal Power

1. Think Bigger

Most people are only focused on what’s going on in the here and now. They focus on their problems, they’re stressing over their blessings, or they live in anxiety so worried about what hasn’t happened yet and may never happen. They are so wrapped up in their own drama or other people’s drama that they never think about what’s possible for them.

The most successful people know that you have to first envision it before you can create it. If you only see problems and negativity you will only get more of that. Start thinking about how you want your life to look and feel 5-10 years from now. We are the only creatures on this planet that have the power of imagination, use it to imagine a life that would make you so damn proud. Imagine doing work that feels meaningful and fulfilling, imagine making an impact and being incredibly abundant while doing it.

2. Understand YOU are Not Your Thoughts

We have something like 60,000 thoughts a day and most are from things we’ve picked up through our environment, life experiences, and a large majority of them are mental garbage. The negative thoughts we have tend to play on a loop in our mind, over and over, reminding us that we’re not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough, not skinny enough, etc… When we realize these thoughts are not our own we can begin to plant thoughts in our mind that do align with us, we can chose more positive thoughts.

3. Use Your Emotions as a Guide

Thoughts + Feelings = Action

If you have negative thoughts and are constantly reacting to your life with negative feelings/emotions how do you think your action is going to look? You’re going to go through life with your head down, unhappy, depressed, feeling like everything is against you and in turn you will be attracting negativity everywhere you turn. We can use our emotions as guides, the worse we feel, the more negative our thoughts have been. When we start choosing better thoughts we will feel better.

4. Recognize Your Triggers and Patterns

Do you go around reacting to everything? Someone cuts you off on your commute to work and you get angry. Your kids don’t do what you told them to so you feel resentment and frustration. Your boss is on you about a project at work so you feel stressed and anxious. You check your bank account and immediately it makes you feel awful and like a failure.

What if you could learn what your triggers are and chose not to react? What if you could wake up with the intention for how you want to feel and all day you are actively choosing that feeling? You would feel more powerful, right? When we know what triggers us we have the power to not react in the way that we always have. If you start to notice in your life, we have patterns that replay on a loop just like the negative thoughts in our mind.

In a marriage, your spouse says that one thing in that tone that you hate and it sets you off. You begin to argue and before you know it, you’re arguing the same argument that you have every single time. How did you get there? It’s a pattern.

By choosing not to react in the first place you step into your personal power and you’re choosing how you want to feel instead of reacting to outside influences. Will you always have this amount of control? No, probably not at first because this is a learned practice. It has taken you years to create the pattern, it takes time to create a new one. Know that you may fail over and over again which brings us to the last key piece...

5. Self-Appreciation is the Key

I saved what I believe is the hardest for last. Do you love yourself? Do you tell yourself how awesome and smart you are? Do appreciate your curvy body? Do you look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are inside and out? Do you love yourself even when things aren’t working out for you?

Loving and appreciating ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. We are told from a young age everything that we’re doing wrong, all the ways we should be different, how we should try to fit in and conform, and years later we don’t even know who we are anymore. We have to know that loving and appreciating ourselves is the first step to personal power as it affects everything in our life.

I almost took this part out because it is so different for everyone but it matters and that is your connection with Source. You are a human body with a soul, an inner being that is pure positive energy. Your soul feels nothing but love for you and everything around you, the further away you are from what your soul feels about you, the worse you feel. Your soul is your connection with Source/God/Universe and you can tap into that connection at anytime. You find it in the quiet spaces of your mind when you are appreciating something or in meditation. This connection is where you will find your peace, creativity and joy.

Most people stumble through life not understanding their personal power. How amazing would it be if we stopped stumbling and became creators in our lives? You have to know that you have the power to choose how you want to feel and you have the ability to create your reality. Once you start on this journey your life will become more fulfilling and so much more fun!

Let me know in the comments, are you ready to step into your personal power?



P.S. If you need help creating a big vision for your life, download my Personal Power Workbook.

Are you posting and hearing crickets?

Why is no one paying attention to content?

Have you been pouring your heart out creating content and posting but no one seems to be paying any attention?

You set up your website and your social media just like you were told to do and got to work. You’re spending so much time creating blogs and posting but every time you post something you hear nothing but crickets. You know you could help so many people if you could just get them to actually stop to read or listen to your content.

I have some tips that may help you get more engagement and build quality relationships that will be selling your products or services in no time!

Know Exactly Who You’re Talking To

When creating content think of that one person that desperately needs your help, find out where they hang out and post content that solves their burning problems. Be consistent, the statistic is we have to see something 12 times before we decide to trust or buy it, so don’t feel bad about posting often.

Connect with Video

Written blogs are great but most people just skim and barely read anymore so having video will help them connect with you faster. Besides creating live videos, create quality video content to post in your blog posts, on IGTV, your Facebook page, YouTube and LinkedIn. (If you just went holy hell how will I ever post to ALL those places, trust me it takes no time and gets your message out to so many people!)

Build Relationships on Social Media

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been reading a great business book and go to find the author on Instagram and they are either no where to be found or they have 6 posts and they haven’t posted in two years. I understand that we can’t be everywhere all the time but find out where you ideal client is hanging out, Instagram is great place to share more of who you are and behind the scenes stuff. Have your social media buttons easy to find on your website and remember your industry colleagues may be on Twitter but your ideal client may be on Instagram and wants to know more about you!

Get on O.P.P. (Other People’s Platforms)

Share you knowledge and build your audience faster by being interviewed for podcasts, written and video blogs, or guest post. I’ve been contacted right after one of my interviews aired for coaching, so yes this is a great way to get yourself booked out! By getting on O.P.P. you will build your audience and credibility so much faster and make great connections along the way.

Create Your Community

Using your Facebook page or create a group, connect with your community of followers, stop talking to them and engage with them. Post things so they can go, “Me too!” and maybe you have a hobby or a belief that will deepen your connection with your true followers even more. Pull back the curtain and share more of who you are… your story, your personality, skills and the people and things that you love. If you would like to learn more about building a personal brand go here.

Have you been hearing crickets with your content? Let me know in the comments how you plan to change that and if these tips helped you!



How to Build a Personal Brand

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Let’s first talk about what a personal brand is not… it’s not your logo, your font or your branding colors.

Building a personal brand is the act of marketing yourself, your experiences, your personality, your interests, and your unique knowledge and skills.

Building a personal brand allows you to pivot in your career, connect with people on a deeper level, stand out and build the know, like, and trust factor. When you build a personal brand, you make yourself economy proof by becoming the “go to expert” and solving a big enough problem.

Ask yourself…

What makes me unique?

What am I skilled and knowledgeable on?

What problems can I help solve?

What do people naturally come to me for?

What do I want to be known for?

A favorite personal brand example of mine is Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx, you know those amazing things that we wear under our clothes to make us look slimmer? Yeah like one of the best inventions ever! She has built a personal brand empowering women on her Instagram and speaking at conferences, she’s stepped out behind her incredibly successful business to build a brand as a thought leader.

As a makeup artist in the beauty industry for so many years, the questions I was always asked were, “What do you love most about doing makeup? What are your favorite products? What are your top tips for a 5 minute makeup routine?” It use to drive me crazy because I’m thinking there’s way more than just makeup tips in this brain of mine!

It wasn’t until I started to build a personal brand outside of my makeup artistry business that people became more interested in me. I started sharing my stories, my personal experiences of transformation, I shared my strategies and methodology for business and personal success. People started to see me, not just my craft, by building a personal brand I was able to pivot in my career and establish myself as a transformational life and business coach.

5 Steps to Building a Personal Brand

1. Craft Your Story

Sharing you story will connect you with others who need to hear what you have to say. If you tell your story in a compelling way and have others say, “Omgosh me too!” you connect with them on a deeper level.

2. Get Social

You want to start building your community and focus on serving not selling. Respond to comments on social media, don’t be afraid to take the conversation into your direct messages, consistently post valuable and useful content.

3. Know Who You’re Talking To

It helps to know your target market and specifically who your ideal client is so you can craft your message. Once you know your ideal client you can start talking directly to her and building a relationship.

4. Solve a Problem

Find out what your ideal client struggles with and then solve her problem, become the “go to” person in your industry… this does not mean be the only expert but become a contributor.

5. Make it Personal

Share who you really are, pull back the curtain on your life and share what makes you unique because the things that makes you different are your greatest assets.

Building a personal brand is about finding your voice, sharing your story, and building your community! If you have a desire to become a thought leader in your industry, building a personal brand is imperative. Even if you don’t but you want to stand out, building a personal brand will set you apart from the rest.

Would you rather watch than read? Check out the video below about building a personal brand!

I would love to hear from you, let me know in the comments if you’re building a personal brand for your business or career! If you’re ready to set up a free introductory coaching call go here.



Inspiring Women with Self-taught Illustrator

I loved having Jessi Bordi (who also happens to be my sister!) in my studio to talk about how she became a self-taught illustrator and how commitment and mindfulness have changed her life and business.

My favorite tweetable moment was when she said, “Be okay with sucking.”

You can follow Jessi on Instagram at @hazelandgraceillustrations.

Let us know if the comments what your takeaways were and if this inspired you to learn something new!



My Interview with Yvonne DiVita of Nurturing Big Ideas

Thank you to Yvonne DiVita of Nurturing Big Ideas for having me on as a guest for her show, “Conversations with Smart Women”.

We had a great conversation about stepping into the next level version of yourself and how clarity leads to abundance and success.

If you would like to learn more about my coaching services please go to my Contact page.

To learn more about Yvonne and her services please go to her website.



How to Make Self-Care a Priority

How to Make Self-Care a Priority

Mothers and women in general are burnt the hell out, it’s a tired that no amount of sleep can cure, an emotional exhaustion that we can’t seem to crawl out of.

This conversation keeps showing up in my coaching sessions and in talking with friends, we’re at a breaking point but we don’t know how to stop it. They’re telling me in hushed whispers…

“I’m trying to do everything, I have no time to myself.”

“I’m exhausted and I lose my temper.”

“I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

You love your spouse, your kids, your life but you’re tapped out and you’re running on fumes. There’s nothing more to give but yet we keep pushing, waiting for the answer to our prayers of things to slow down, so we can stop feeling so damn stressed out and anxious all the time.

Self-care is a buzzword we hear a lot now but what does it really mean? The dictionary defines self-care as “the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health.” We can’t pour from an empty cup, we need to fill ours up first so we can be all that we need to be for the one’s that we love. Especially us mothers we tend to over give of ourselves but the people who love us need us to be happy, not perfect and that means taking care of ourselves.

Maybe that means something as simple as going to get a pedicure, taking a day to read a book and drink tea alone or going on a hike and being in nature… whatever it is, you get to define what self-care is for you.

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Here are some tips to help you make self-care a priority:

Be honest with yourself

It’s time to let go of the perfect facade. Who are you trying to impress when you over volunteer your time, say “Yes” to doing things you hate, or strive for perfection for your kid’s birthday party? We have to let go of perfection, shut down Pinterest for a minute and know that done is better than perfect. If you’re overextending yourself to please others and burning yourself out in the process, get use to saying “No” more and making yourself a priority. Find a group of women that you can be authentic and real with, these women are your tribe.

Establish boundaries

Minimize the time you spend with “energy vampires” basically the people who suck the energy from you. Set your intention for how you want to feel for the day when you first wake up and if something or someone is trying to pull you from feeling the way you want to feel, try to avoid spending as much time with them. Intentions that I often set for the day are to feel calm, connected and to have fun.

Ask for help

Maybe you need to hire a sitter or ask your family for help. You could have your groceries delivered, have someone clean your house, whatever you can do to take some things off your plate so you don’t feel so overwhelmed. We can not nor should we try to do all the things by ourselves, ask for help when you need it and try to ask before you feel the overwhelm as it’s harder to shift out of when you’re in it, with an overflowing calendar of responsibilities.

Make a happy list

Have a list of 20 or more things that you love to do that make you feel seriously happy. This could be listening to you favorite music, dancing in the kitchen while making your kid’s lunches, spending quiet time meditating for a few minutes each day or going to a dance class. This is your list of the things that bring you the most joy, refer to this list often and incorporate as many as you can each day.

Schedule it

If it’s not in the calendar, it’s not going to happen! We are busy and we often put others before ourselves so we have to schedule our self-care time just like everything else. Putting ourselves first is hard and can bring up negative feelings. Let yourself feel them, maybe write them down in your journal and think back to a time when you were told or shown that in order to be liked you had to be everything to everyone or you aren’t a good mother unless you’re running yourself ragged.

Let me know in the comments, are you feeling burnt out? If you currently have a self-care practice and are making it a priority in your life, share with us in the comments.

If you’re feeling the burn and want more help contact me to set up a coaching session, I can help you work through your feelings and give you tools to minimize the stress and anxiety that you’re feeling so you can feel happier and more fulfilled in your life.



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Featured on Enlightenedhood Podcast

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I’ve been featured on the Enlightenhood podcast talking about motherhood, mindfulness and staying sane while raising kids and running businesses. 

Go to iTunes to listen and let me know in the comments if you got any “Aha” moments from listening!



My Coaching Space

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* Since this posting I have closed my physical location to focus on growing my online coaching business. October 6, 2019

Who says coaching spaces have to be plain and nature sounds playing in the background?!

I’m not your typical life coach and neither is my space. My space is beautiful, bright and inviting and is the perfect space for us to meet for consultations and in person coaching sessions!

My coaching style is a little bit different, I work as a transformational coach which is different than traditional therapy and goes deeper than typical life coaching.

Traditional therapy works with past trauma, diagnosing and treating mental illnesses.

Life coaching works with defining goals and creating a plan of action to help you get there.

Transformational coaching helps you define what you want and uncover the limiting beliefs that are holding you back. I believe this is the way to see results faster and with more lasting results than if we just worked with your goals alone.

In order to get to the next level version of ourselves we have to understand what’s holding us back. Is it procrastination, lack of confidence, a past money story? In business and career, are you afraid of showing up and being seen? Do you not feel worthy and valuable?

In my coaching sessions I’ve been able to help women get unstuck, re-ignite their passion, and feel more confident. I give you the tools to continue your growth long after our coaching sessions are finished because our growth and expansion never ends.

Have you ever heard of the saying, “new level, new devil”? It’s true, to become the most successful and happy version of ourselves we have to know that the “devil” is our own mind. It can work against us and hold us back from everything we desire if we don’t know how to take control of it and make it work for us.

It is my passion and mission to help women become the best version of themselves. If you would like to book a consultation with me over the phone or in person go to my Contact page!



Overcoming Your Triggers

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Confession, I use to be a cabinet slammer.

My husband and I have been together for 21 years (minus the 6 months we broke up when I was 21) so we’ve gotten really good at knowing just the right thing to say, in the right tone, to really piss each other off.

I use to react to everything and sometimes with so much anger I scared myself! It took me many, many years of slamming and screaming to realize I could let the words pass and I didn’t have to react anymore.

I started to recognize the pattern, everything would be good for awhile but then something would set one of us off, we’d fight, play the silent treatment game and make up, only to repeat the pattern again a few weeks later.

In Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment “ he says, the pain-body is an “accumulated pain that occupies your body and mind. Some people live almost entirely through their pain-body, while others may experience it only in certain situations. Anything can trigger it, particularly if it resonates with a pain pattern from your past. When it is ready to awaken…even a thought or an innocent remark made by someone close to you can activate it.”

Most of the time it’s a learned pattern from our childhood that we repeat in our own lives to be passed down through our children. Once I realized I had a choice to not react, I would even acknowledge out loud, “I know you’re trying to trigger me and I’m not going to let you.”

I had to look at myself as well, what were the things that I said that I knew would cause a fight? I had to catch myself, let the words sit on my tongue for a minute before saying them because I knew if I said them it would be game on.

This has made such a difference in our marriage. Obviously no marriage is perfect and these old habits are hard to break but we’ve gotten so much more aware, even our kids say “Oh you’re triggered!” Start to pay attention to the patterns in your relationships, notice what sets you and others off. Learn to think before you speak.

My main goal is to stay in alignment, a state of feeling good. Being angry and resentful isn’t aligned with me and my core values, its a terrible way to live and affects our children immensely. The good news is you are not doomed to repeat the patterns for the rest of your life but it does take some time and self-awareness. Our happiness can not depend on others acting or being a certain way, we have to find our own alignment and use it as a beacon to guide us.

Notice the next time you feel triggered about something, what were the words and tone the person used? What memories or feelings did it bring up for you? This is a good time to have your journal nearby, learn to write about your feelings instead of always reacting and repeating patterns that no longer serve you.

Have you been living in a state of reaction? Are you ready for change? Let us know in the comments.



Are You on Your Own Hero's Journey?

The Hero’s Journey is defined by Wikipedia as a narrative that “involves a hero who goes on an adventure and in a decisive crisis wins a victory and then comes home changed or transformed.” Stories like this have been around forever, there are struggles and challenges but ultimately the hero or SHEro is able to overcome them and returns home as a new way of being, a new person.

This can also happen to us as we go through our own transformation, we feel a stirring in our heart to follow a different path, we feel like we are being guided in a different direction. We come to a crossroads - do we answer the call or continue living the same way?

My story of my own transformation is similar, I was coming off of the biggest year in my business I had accomplished everything I had wanted, every box had a check mark but I didn’t feel happy. Instead I felt burnt out and disillusioned, I started to ask, “Is this all there is just striving for successes?” Feeling happy for a moment when I hit a goal but then going right back down and never feeling fully joyful, happy and excited about my life.

I started to ask, “What is my purpose? What am I really here for?”

At first I didn’t answer the calling I tried to stuff it down, tuck it away but the calling kept getting louder. I can tell you from my own experience I felt lost, confused, frustrated, alone and sometimes even scared because I didn’t understand what was happening to me. Now I know these feelings are totally normal and we don’t have to go through this alone.

It’s much like the caterpillar who comes out as a butterfly, our one true purpose in life is to answer our soul’s calling, if we don’t listen we start to feel stuck, depressed, anxious and even disease can set in because we try to stuff all of our feelings into our bodies.

So the hero goes on this journey and goes through the trials and tribulations but in the process discovers his own personal power and his life is changed forever, he goes back to his life as a different person.

Are you on a hero’s journey?

Do you feel the calling of your soul to follow a different direction?

If you’re feeling like a lost caterpillar right now, it’s okay you’re not alone and you are not crazy, you could just be on your own transformational journey.

If you think you are, I would love to hear where you are in your journey and what you feel like the next step is for you, comment below or send me a message on my contact page!



How to Find Your Purpose

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This age old question that has been asked since the beginning of time …how do I know what my purpose is?

So many people have no idea or worry they’re going to get it wrong, so instead of making the wrong choice, they don’t pursue any choices.

Your purpose is what you say it is, it’s what lights you up and makes you feel happy, that’s it!. No light comes down from the heavens to bestow upon you your purpose in life, you find it by trying different things.

Most people get tripped up because they think they have to make a job out of their purpose and although I’m a big fan of turning your purpose into profit, that’s not always the case. Sometimes your purpose is what gives your life meaning, fulfillment and fun. You’ll get more enjoyment from your life and share your joy with others…that doesn’t sound so bad, right?

So how do we know what our purpose is? Let’s explore by asking yourself these questions:

What do you love to do for hours without getting bored or tired?

What are you naturally good at, what comes easily to you?

What would you do for free?

What did you love to do as a child?

What do people often ask or come to you for?

One of the things that I love to do is reading but I wouldn’t want to make a job out of reading as that would take the fun out of it for me. Another purpose of mine is helping women connect to their purpose, now that is something I can make a business out of and makes my life more fulfilling!

Pay attention to when you feel the most joy and happiness. If you haven’t felt that way in a long time, ask yourself the questions to finding your purpose, they will not steer you wrong.

Let me know in the comments, do you know your purpose or are you in search of it?



My Interview with Lyndsey Johnson of GrowthVine

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I was recently interviewed by Lyndsey Johnson of GrowthVine for her women overcoming challenges series.

Lyndsey said, “Fantastic interview with Kim today where we talked about how to stop that speeding train when you want to pivot your business and get out of one that is misaligned!”

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From Photographer to Coach

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From photographer to coach, my interview with Elizabeth Henson.

She’s a photographer, podcaster, coach and community builder. She shares advice on pivoting from one career to another and how build a strong community.

To find out more about Elizabeth go to:

Mothers, is it possible to be wildly successful while raising children?

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In a span of 2 days a friend posted on Instagram that work/life balance is hard as hell with her newborn baby, I read a post on Facebook from a woman looking for role models of inspiring, successful mothers because she needed some hope, my coaching client was struggling to balance her high level career and motherhood, and I wrote in my journal after a rough day at home with my sick toddler…

“Is this it, my f*cking life is made up of cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking and few professional successes in between? Is this really it, it doesn’t get any better than this? I’m tired, I feel like I’m being buried alive. I only feel like myself when I’m working.”

The truth is this shit is hard as hell.

I feel like mothers can be broken down into 3 stages:

Infant stage- “WTF why didn’t anyone tell me it would be this hard?”

Elementary age- “Who am I again?”

High school age- “I would give anything to squeeze their squishy toddler cheeks again.”

If you’re in the first 2 stages, I wrote this for you. So the question is, can I live in my purpose, excel at being my highest self while still being a great mother, is this at all possible?

Although I can’t say I have it all figured out and I don’t lose my mind at least once a week, I have realized with a 13, 10, and 2 year old (the last being our bonus baby) is that life goes in seasons and even if this one feels hard and overwhelming a new season is coming. I don’t believe that work/life balance is possible but that in some seasons things will get more focus than others and that’s okay.

What does being a successful mom and entrepreneur look like for you?

First, define what “success” means to you. If success for you means living in a perfectly clean home with healthy dinners on the table every night you may want to hire someone to help you. In our house we are currently doing all.the.things. and some night’s it’s fast food especially during the kids’ sports season, we do what we can, the best we can, we’ve got to let go of that mom guilt it will eat us alive.

If you’re currently doing all.the.things. too try to relax into the chaos because kids come with some major shit! There’s never a time when there aren’t toys all over my house but having two older kids I also realize that the toys will not always be here. As the kids get older the toys get smaller and then non-existent, so as I look around at the baby dolls and play food I try to relax knowing that this will not last forever.

What happens when all the plates go crashing down?

We give ourselves grace, we’re human, not robots. We need to take care of ourselves first (yes I said first) before we give everything we have away and are going to be good for no one. Take time to exercise, have a personal care routine even if that means a 5 minute makeup routine putting it on in the car after you buckle the kids in. Give yourself some time to walk around Target alone, do what you need to do to feel whole and complete. Ask for help when you need it, that is self-care.

Show up as the role model that you are.

I believe that we’re doing our children a huge service by showing them how much we love our work, what it means to be passionate and driven. They will see us typing away at night when the rest of the house is asleep, they hear us on podcasts and see us writing our books and they know that there is possibility out there in the world for them, we are showing them what’s possible.

We would lay down our own lives to save theirs but do we have to lose ourselves completely?

Know that you’re not alone, there are so many of us that feel this way, we do what we can with the season we’re in. Keep your focus on who you want to become and let it pull you forward even when it seems easier to give up. Reach out, ask for help, find a community of women that can support you when you feel like you can’t go on. We’re all in this together, raising children and the consciousness of the planet, this is no small feat so be patient, be kind and love yourself while giving them all that you can!

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Happiness Is Possible

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Let me know if this resonates with you, you set all of these goals for your relationships, weight loss, career and you tell yourself, “I’ll be happy when…(fill in the blank).”

For me it was…

I’ll be happy when I get married.

I’ll be happy when we have kids.

I’ll be happy when we buy a new house.

I’ll be happy when I have a successful business.

I thought if I worked hard enough and accomplished all of my goals I would finally deserve to feel happy. How f*cked up is that?!

Each time I’d hit a milestone I felt a sense of happiness but I just kept moving the goal post further back, withholding my happiness in the process. That was until I cracked, I hit burnout and I couldn’t keep going. I felt defeated, disillusioned (umm when am I actually suppose to feel happy damnit?!) and seriously feeling like I was lacking purpose in my life.

If I wasn’t going hard on my goals I didn’t know how to be anything but hustling and striving. When I started deep diving into personal development is when I realized that I had been doing it all wrong, withholding our happiness makes for a sad life.

Who we’re being is more important than what we’re doing.

So how can we feel happy now? Grace and gratitude are our secret weapons!

  • Every night before bed write down in your journal all of the things you're grateful for.

  • Write down a list of 25 things that make you happy (music, dancing, walking in nature, etc.) and try to do as many as possible each day.

  • Keep a journal of all of your good and bad feelings throughout the day and try to catch negative thoughts before they cause you to spiral by focusing on how you want to feel.

  • Stay focused on your vision while checking in with yourself and being present as much as possible.

Life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed so make feeling good your #1 priority and watch your life change!

Download my Personal Power Workbook to help you discover your vision and help you set goals with soul.

Have you dealt with withholding your happiness? Let me know in the comments!

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