Happiness

Not feeling happy? You're not alone.

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If this sounds like you, first of all, you’re not alone. So many women have leaned in and whispered to me saying something similar to, “I just don’t know who I am anymore, I don’t know what my purpose is, I don’t know how to be happy.”

I’ve heard mainly from women with children, women who like me have devoted so much of their time and energy to their children that when they finally get to an age where they can do something for themselves they feel lost (or you have a surprise pregnancy that turns your world upside down and has you wondering the purpose of everything! 🙋🏼‍♀️).

But recently I met with an old friend who has no children and she said she went through a depression last year that she couldn’t explain why, she said she just felt lost. Our choices are literally endless but we feel paralyzed, terrified to make the wrong choice or just completely unsure of what we even want.

Sometimes this lack of clarity has us go in search of our purpose in life or some of us bury our feelings because the idea of doing something different and getting out of our comfort zones is too scary and overwhelming. It’s my mission to normalize these conversations so that we don’t have to go through these feelings alone. My first suggestion is to get as much clarity as you can because when you know what you don’t want, then you know what you do want. When was the last time you asked yourself what you really want?

If you would like more help I offer coaching sessions to help you realign with your purpose and help you find your happy again! Send me a message on my contact page.

xo,

Kim

Body Image & Confidence with Aimee Beltran

Today I had Aimee Beltran in my studio talking about body image, confidence and living our best lives! 

If you've ever held yourself back or have been afraid of being seen, in this video we talk about our own personal experiences and Aimee gives us some tips on living our lives more confidently!

Aimee Beltran is the CEO and founder of Irresistible YOUniversity, the Irresistible You podcast, author of the Amazon Hot New Seller, The Irresistible You Journal, and the blog, Irresistible Icing. Through her coaching, courses, and content, she empowers women to boost their confidence and improve body image to create the irresistible life they crave.

To find out more about Aimee go to: https://irresistibleicing.com/

To purchase the journal go to: https://amzn.to/2FquJEz

If you deal with any of these issues or had an “aha” moment while watching, we would love to hear from you in the comments!

xo,

Kim

Finding Happiness and Success

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How can you get everything you've ever wanted in life and still not be happy?

In short, from the outside looking in, my life can be summed up by a series of check marks:

✔ Married to a great guy

✔ Three beautiful, smart, healthy kids

✔ House in our target neighborhood that exactly matched our criteria

✔ Successful business

It's the last one that really got me... you know marriage and children are going to be hard and you constantly have to work at it. But once I set my sights on building a successful business, I thought for sure that would bring me the fulfillment that I was so desperately searching for.

I was "successful" after accomplishing all of my goals in just a few short years but I didn't feel successful. I constantly felt frazzled, I had gained weight, and I was putting my health and my relationships on the back burner. I was trying to do way too much, I was saying "yes" to projects for fear that they wouldn't like me if I said "no" or that I would be easily replaced and never asked again. I was on a fast moving train and I had no idea how to get off of it. How could I possibly admit that I was unhappy when I was doing exactly what I said I wanted to do? It was only after finding out that I was pregnant with our third and *surprise* baby that I was able to really look at my life and get some perspective.

 

"If you had asked me why I wanted to start my own business I would have said freedom but I looked around at my life and I felt everything but free."

 

I had nailed the vision & goal setting part of my life but I had missed something, I was missing the feeling that I wanted to feel once I had accomplished those goals. I thought I would magically feel happy and fulfilled but the truth is you have to start full to feel full. The accomplishments and resume highlights are great (Hello, Secret Service and VP candidate, I mean as a makeup artist that looks pretty good on the 'ol resume!) but they are fleeting, that high flying feeling of "success" doesn't last long.

So how do you avoid the life crisis of realizing you are not happy even after you've gotten everything you've ever dreamed of? 

First ask yourself these questions...

What do I want?

How do I want to feel when I get it?

How can I create that feeling now and use it as a guide to getting what I want?

I know that so many other people feel the same way and I especially hear it from women. They send me messages, they tell me sitting in my makeup chair, and they whisper their dreams to me over a few glasses of wine. What we want is clarity, we want fulfillment, we want to feel like we are living our purpose but not having to sacrifice what we value the most... our family, friends, and our health, to get it. We don't have to settle for a simple life, we can have a life of abundance and adventure and whatever else we want, but it starts with getting clear on our values and the feelings that we want to feel and letting them be our guides.

I would love to hear from you, let me know what you think in the comments!

xo,

Kim