Let me know if this resonates with you, you set all of these goals for your relationships, weight loss, career and you tell yourself, “I’ll be happy when…(fill in the blank).”
For me it was…
I’ll be happy when I get married.
I’ll be happy when we have kids.
I’ll be happy when we buy a new house.
I’ll be happy when I have a successful business.
I thought if I worked hard enough and accomplished all of my goals I would finally deserve to feel happy. How f*cked up is that?!
Each time I’d hit a milestone I felt a sense of happiness but I just kept moving the goal post further back, withholding my happiness in the process. That was until I cracked, I hit burnout and I couldn’t keep going. I felt defeated, disillusioned (umm when am I actually suppose to feel happy damnit?!) and seriously feeling like I was lacking purpose in my life.
If I wasn’t going hard on my goals I didn’t know how to be anything but hustling and striving. When I started deep diving into personal development is when I realized that I had been doing it all wrong, withholding our happiness makes for a sad life.
So how can we feel happy now? Grace and gratitude are our secret weapons!
Every night before bed write down in your journal all of the things you're grateful for.
Write down a list of 25 things that make you happy (music, dancing, walking in nature, etc.) and try to do as many as possible each day.
Keep a journal of all of your good and bad feelings throughout the day and try to catch negative thoughts before they cause you to spiral by focusing on how you want to feel.
Stay focused on your vision while checking in with yourself and being present as much as possible.
Life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed so make feeling good your #1 priority and watch your life change!
Download my Personal Power Workbook to help you discover your vision and help you set goals with soul.
Have you dealt with withholding your happiness? Let me know in the comments!
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